The Art of Flirting!

Flirting is an art that some girls have, and some girls don’t.

One has to have a complete understanding of a man’s mind in order to articulately enter and rule it. Usually men are attracted to women who are confident about themselves and not too easy to get.

Guys as we all know are always excited to see a charming girl and therefore they love the idea of flirting. However, this doesn't mean that they will outrageously flirt with every girl they come across. Some guys are even cowards to the extent that they avoid making the first move. Obviously, they wouldn't want to be called ‘perverts’.

Guys always look out for the signs from the girl before proceeding further. So, it’s very necessary for a girl to make the right moves to attract a guy’s attention. You as a girl have to let him know that you’re approachable and open to healthy flirting.

Make sure to read his body language before giving him any signs. Don’t be scared to be the first one to approach or you may lose your chance! Go with the flow and let your natural feelings show. Be yourself, don’t imitate.

# BE CONFIDENT ABOUT YOURSELF

Whether you're fat, skinny, black or white, you are all beautiful. In my eyes, there are a lot of you who don’t use yourself to your full potential. You need to start believing that anything and everything can happen to you, you're a princess in your own way, you’re all beautiful, just smile because you deserve to. Be confident and comfortable in your skin. Loving yourself is the first rule to charm a guy!

# THE CURVE ON YOUR FACE IS ESSENTIAL

Guys are bowled over by a happy girl. Smile is the best make-up you can put on to naturally charm a guy. Be sure to smile and laugh occasionally while conversing with the guy you want to flirt with. Don’t give cocky comments as it usually makes the guy stay away. Just a little blush on your face when he compliments you, will make his heart skip a beat.

# EXPRESSIONS

Shot him a coy smile as you pass by him. It would act as a friendly gesture. Eye contact is another key expression to show a guy that you are interested in him. It’s basically finding a guy you have an attraction to and holding that gaze. Remember, the next time you’re having a conversation with a guy you like, look into his eyes deeply and smile as he’s talking to you. It may confuse him or make him feel awkward, but a deep eye contact and a happy smile will definitely leave him weak in his knees. Spend a few minutes in front of the mirror every day and work on your expressions. Learn to use your eyes and your facial expressions to your advantage, and you won’t really need words to impress a guy and make him flirt with you.

# LAUGH AT HIS JOKES

It shows you’re interested and have a good sense of humour. Plus, humour is a personal characteristic, which shows him you’re comfortable around him. Laughing at your crush’s jokes will make him comfortable around you as well and give him an idea of your interest.

# COMPLIMENT HIM

Who doesn't love compliments? And compliments are one of the stepping stones of a happy flirty conversation. If you like something about a guy, make sure you compliment him for that. He would love the fact that you noticed something nice about him, and furthermore, he’d go out of his way to have a flirty conversation with you. Also, if he’s being rather courteous or chivalrous, thank him with a warm smile.

# BE EXPRESSIVE

Open your heart to him. Talk, talk and talk. Guys love to hear your sweet voice. Though make sure you don’t overdo it. Try to keep your conversation on the topic of his interests. You can run your hands through your hair to show off your confidence or tuck your hair behind your ears with your fingers to show off your sexy cuteness. But whatever you do, it’ll only make a guy’s jaw drop in awe. So don’t be afraid to express yourself.

# PLAY ALONG

You should learn to put him down in jest, or make him work harder to impress you. You can’t always put him on a pedestal using happy words. Don’t be too easy to get or the guy may lose interest. Guys love adventures. If you want to successfully flirt with a guy and make him like you, you have to make him feel special. But the flirty game still has to be in your control. If you don’t like his joke, say it. Make him feel good, but play along during the conversation.

# BE GIRLY

A brash or loud girl is actually more of a turn off for guys than anything else. Try to be subtle and feminine, be it in your voice or the way you dress. You need to make him feel like he can protect you. Men simply love it. If you want him to be drawn to you, you need to let him take the lead at least for a few minutes. Men like to take the lead, be it asking a girl out or flirting with her, so just play it easy and wait for him to start flirting with you. After all, you don’t want to start flirting before he does and risk a chance of getting blown off, do you?

# THAT MAGICAL TOUCH

The touch is essential. Guys are forever drawn to a girl’s touch. It’s involuntary, but every time a girl touches a guy, either on his arm or his shoulder, the guy opens up more and feels more comfortable to talk to the girl or flirt with her. There’s a subtle difference between healthy touching and making it seem vulgar!

# AVOID BEING DOMINATING

Guys don't always like being dominated by a girl. It gives them a subtle happiness to know that they command over their girls. Also, sometimes if a girl tries to dominate and get on the guy’s nerves, she might just end up hurting his ego. 

Flirting isn't a difficult task but doing it the right way is what makes the difference! Use your talent to best suit yourself. Good luck girls. Get yours guys. Cheers!

Love,
Ila.