Dealing with the matters of love and romance!

Love and romance are two entirely different concepts. We have all experienced love, love from parents, brothers, sisters, relatives, friends, etc. To love and be loved is therefore not a new feeling. But the ability to feel the intense side of this love - the romantic love, only comes when we reach adolescence. And this kind of love is way different from the love we have been so used to since our childhood days.

Because of this new intense feeling, our life too experiences a series of change. This romantic love can be good for some, heart-breaking for others. And still, it remains an indispensable feeling. It’s a passionate feelings of attraction. Our cultural, may put taboo on it, however, that cannot cease our heart from loving or be attracted to the opposite sex. Some call it infatuation! Express it in whichever way you like, but you can’t deny it. It’s a natural tendency.

Just as you need food to survive, you need romance to grow. They say, love is after all like a food for the soul. We see this romance in front of our eyes from the very beginning (our parents, of course) and yet when we experience it in our own lives, it seems so different from what we read in novels and are made to see in movies. These new feelings can be exciting - or even confusing at first. It doesn't always have a happy ending.

The key is knowing yourself a little better which will in a way, lead you to an optimistic path and assist your romance to grow in the right direction. Believe, and you are halfway through it!

Romantic love hurts, it is not always easy to tread on a smooth path. Heartbreak can result in exquisite pain, strange distress, and what not. Physical wounds can be resolved but the wounds of heart-breaks are never seen, just felt. It takes forever at times, to get used to them.

We all hate the feeling of a heartbreak, don’t we? And yet we find ourselves compelled to go over and over the memories, ideas or fantasies which make the feeling worse. Then we look for solace in painkillers to ease out the distress. But using painkillers, anti-depressants is never a solution to this pain. It can be embarrassing and lead to an incurable mental state.

All you need to do is be strong. Some people think that to be strong is to never feel pain. In reality, the strongest people are the ones who feel it, understand it and accept it. And that is the key that you should follow. We can do it with a belief in our own capabilities. Start with telling yourself that you deserve the best. Affirmations help in a big way! Open your heart, let it love… don’t be afraid.

Who I want to be? - Unveiling Myself

So as my birthday is approaching, and for the first time I am not that excited, I decided to contemplate within myself for some much required answers. Of late I am absolutely sure that my inner speculations will take me to a path that is custom made for me. Well my outer world has stopped to exist (for a while, at least)! At first, I thought catching up with some old friends will do wonders to shape up my life, give it a direction, but I can't wait to meet them. I need to take some quick decisions, and also transform them into actions. My life is constantly changing even right now as we speak about it.

I had been struggling to think of what to say, so I stopped thinking. I was convinced I didn't know who I wanted to be. And then I realized the answer was all around me.

I wanna be someone who is willing to forgive.

I wanna be someone that cares more about others than themselves.

I wanna be someone who can tell it like it is.

I wanna be someone who can take a decision by putting others before themselves (even if it is a hard one).

I wanna be someone who would give up everything for the right reason.

I wanna be someone who can make their parents proud of themselves and for once, not embarrass them.

I wanna be someone who doesn't have to cry the whole night.

I wanna be someone who is brave enough to face the world and ignore the rumors.

I wanna be someone who sees the best in everyone.

I wanna be someone who is a true friend.

I wanna be someone who always tries to be a better person, and someone who learns from their mistakes.

I guess, more than anything else, I just wanna be someone who encompasses all those things so I can finally be 'That Girl' who doesn't need a boy to be happy.

...because I'll know how to dance all on my own, without the fear of being judged or being the victim of several wrong assumptions. I will know how to smile and be happy without the constant need for support. Life would be so much better than even without a job, perhaps!